GUIDE TO ANAL SEX
Why would anyone want to have anal
sex?
By Steve Kraft
AKA Pro Driver
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate
taboo. Buttfucking makes it sound crude and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In
the 1990's, anal sex has been given the bad rap because of HIV, the virus that
causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others
haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it
precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.
What is analingus?
One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or
having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic
region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing.
Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With
enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex
as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. If your partner is hesitant coax
them into trying it and they will find a whole new world open to them.
Can anal sex actually give
pleasure?
The pleasure of anal sex is derived
from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially
about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become
something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available
during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined
with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good
feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of
powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new
and strong sensation to enjoy.
What do I need to have anal
sex?
The most important pieces of advice anyone
can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly
available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at
most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay,
some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are
available in some form at adult toy stores.
Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure
the lubricant you buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-
based lubricants such as Vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long before
you're done having sex.
Do I have to use a
condom?
Even if you're sure that both you and
your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is
home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the
penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards. It will also give you peace of
mind.
I'm worried that anal sex will be
messy.
Anal sex should not be messy. Most
first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to
go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned,
a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.
How do we prepare for anal
sex?
Patience is the third and final thing you
need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult
part of anal sex-- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the
rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially
under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stim- ulation. Your partner
has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to receive
your penis.
Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller
than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex
and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting
her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again.
Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second
finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers is
probably enough.
What position should we use for
anal sex?
For actual intercourse, picking a
position can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate how fast
penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style,
or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you
start.
As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots
of lubricant. People who like anal sex say that "too much lube is almost
enough." Listen to her-- if she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.
Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where
her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If
she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just
because you're inside her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her
body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.
Can I get pregnant from anal
sex?
It is not *technically* possible to get
pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract
to the vaginal tract.
However, anal sex is still not a very good method of
birth control. Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse may drip across the
perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is
known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high!
8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of birth control have babies each
year.
What if I don't like
it?
You may find that anal sex just isn't for
you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that
doesn't make you feel good, anal intercourse is an acquired taste...just like
your first cup of coffee as you were growing up...You had to grow to like
it....Now you can't live with out it!
Now get to it and make your partner smile and love
you forever! With Love,
